How To Insanely Love Someone Who Is Insanely In Love With You

There comes a time in everybody’s life when they find someone who is madly in love with them. Well, it’s good until the day they discover they don’t feel quite the same.

If it’s a guy who keeps following you and throws flowers or letters at you or leaves gifts at your door, but his very face makes you feel like visiting the loo, then the solution is obvious. Don’t even think of loving him back (forget about ‘with same fervour’) so as not to hurt him. He just doesn’t have a life and you don’t need throw yours away for his sake. Rather throw rocks at the miserable git (and yeah, his gifts too) before he throws acid at your face for refusing him. And inform the nearest police station.

But if you are already in a relationship and your other half’s dedication and passion is driving you out of your mind, into the dark cramped sinister corner of guilt, turning you claustrophobic, then it’s time to sit and think things over.

Firstly, beware of anybody who appears to be insanely in love with you. Chances are he is really insane. He can very well be a psychopath who will torture you or even murder you if another guy accidently steps inside one kilometre radius of yours. Or worse possibility is he is just faking it because your dad has enough money to support him for three generations while he watches runs and re-runs of Baywatch.

But the real trouble is when these are not true. If he keeps saying things like ‘you are the one for me’ and ‘we should get married’ and ‘I can’t live without you’ every five minutes in a conversation, it’s time to take action. Nobody wants a guy who treats them bad. But it might just get too much to live with when you are smothered in love and you can’t just do things that way. The guilt feeling would be inevitable. The whole idea of ‘he is doing so much, he deserves better’ will slowly eat you up from inside.

Ask yourself ‘Is it really important to reciprocate any feeling with same intensity or in the same ways?’ If you answer ‘yes’, then ask again. It might just be possible that your partner believes in gifting you a garden full of red roses on Valentine’s Day, but you feel one is more than enough. Try to talk to him and tell how his profound display of love actually hurts you. And the no-brainer rule says ‘he would understand if he really loves you’. And if it gets too much just change your house, your job, your hair colour or your sexual orientation.

So, how to insanely love someone who is insanely in love with you? I don’t know. Become insane, probably.